Top 10 Tips to make a Long-Distance Relationship work

A long-distance relationship is anything but easy. You often feel like the challenge is too hard and you are going to break under the desire to be together again. But there are ways to live with the situation and master the task. In this article, I’m going to show you 10 tips to make your long-distance relationship work. By following this advice, you will keep it alive and strong until you finally move together one day.

1. Lower Your Expectations

After weeks without your partner, you can’t wait to be together again. This often leads to developing very high expectations of the next reunion. You want your partner to be in a good mood, spontaneous, euphoric, enterprising and relaxed. But life happens, a stressful week, family problems, a cold or just exhausting from traveling can set each other in different emotional states. This could lead to disappointment, one could think their love is not reciprocated and that their partner isn’t as happy to see them again. Making this mistake could quickly lead to misunderstandings and an argument could ruin the whole day. It’s a lot of pressure because you only have little time to spend together and you don’t want that it ends in a disaster. My advice is to lower your expectations a little and approach each other relaxed. Look forward to the time together and be spontaneous. If you don’t fly high, you can’t fall low.

2. Build Your Own Social Circle

To have a long-distance relationship does not mean to be lonely at home and only wait for the next messages from your partner. Don’t be alone too often and don’t make yourself and your emotions dependent on your partner. Even if you can’t be together 24/7, you can be happy! Build your own social circle, follow your interests and hobbies and do not lock yourself in at home. If you want to make it work, it is important that you continue to lead your own life and be able to have fun without your partner. It’s neither beneficial for you nor for your partner to feel sad and alone all the time. It only leads to dissatisfaction and sooner or later this will also reflect in your relationship.

3. Have Common Rituals

In a long-distance relationship in which you cannot see each other whenever you want, it is important to maintain a sense of togetherness despite the distance. My advice is to create common rituals so you will have moments that belong only to you. These rituals can be within the time you are apart like having dinner over video-chat, talking about your day at a specific time, playing certain online games or watching a tv show together. But you should also have rituals when you meet each other like trying a new restaurant, playing couple games or cooking together. These moments weld together and increase the feeling of togetherness.

4. See the Advantages of a Long Distance Relationship

Yes, a long-distance relationship has many disadvantages at first glance. But when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. There’s no point in feeling sorry and sad about the situation. Because believe it or not: a long-distance relationship can also have advantages. For example, you can be more spontaneous and flexible in managing your time. Be a little selfish and take time for your hobbies and friends instead of waiting full of desire and sadness for the next reunion. Those who remain emotionally independent can enjoy their time together even more because they don’t have to but want to. Apart from that, the anticipation increases through a long-distance relationship. The relationship stays fresh and exciting, you get butterflies which most couples only have at the beginning of the relationship. Even the infatuation lasts longer and you don’t have everyday problems like “normal” couples.

5. Having a Finish-Line

It’s great to get involved in a long-distance relationship and master it. However, even the most beautiful long-distance relationship does not last forever. At some point, you have the feeling that this longing will never end and you are in a vicious circle. That is why it is important to determine a foreseeable end. For example, it is still six months until the partner returns from his year abroad or planning to move in a year from now. If you can see the end of this long distance and know exactly when your dream finally becomes reality, it is much easier to hold out.

6. Great Communication

Sounds simple and yet so important. Communication is the be-all and end-all of every relationship. But especially in a long-distance relationship, where you have to struggle with jealousy, longing, and loneliness, talking to each other is the key. Apart from that, texting on which couples with distance unfortunately depend can quickly lead to misunderstandings. Therefore it is all the more important to call each other regularly and speak personally to clear up any doubts or disputes. Furthermore, it can also be good and strengthening for the relationship to talk about your feelings and say how much you miss each other.

7. Take Time to Relax

This point fits well with “lowering high expectations” earlier in this section. It’s great to look forward to special experiences and plan beautiful days. However, there should always be a few moments of relaxation. The little time you spend together doesn’t have to be like an explosion of excitement and fun, don’t feel like you’re missing out on something when you’re doing nothing. Cuddling and being present in the moment can be very beautiful. It is just as important to take time for yourself as a couple and enjoy togetherness. So clear a few hours off, spend a day in bed and enjoy having each other.

8. Little Surprises

Who doesn’t like surprises? They make the relationship exciting and the partner happy. For example, you can send romantic gifts by post, write an old-fashioned love letter or record a video. Surprise them by standing unannounced in front of the door, this will definitely make their heart beat faster. Small gifts and cute surprises make the longing a little more bearable and delight the partner in his rotating everyday life.

9. Keep Your Passion

Due to the distance, it can quickly happen that you no longer feel close to each other and your passion is lost. It is therefore important not to lose your closeness at a distance, as paradoxical as it may sound. Make yourselves desire each other and the next reunion. Writing intimate messages or doing dirty talk on the phone increases the desire for real-life action. It can also be that you feel strange after a long time and need a few hours to get closer again. It can be helpful to first go for a walk together, arm in arm, or simply to cuddle for a long time. Another great tip is to play sex games for couples when you meet each other again. It will make it easier to get close and increase the passion until you can’t wait any longer.

10. Acceptance

The most important and last tip is that you accept your situation and do not constantly regret it. A long-distance relationship is not easy and it is allowed to be sad, but you can only survive this time well if you accept the relationship as it is and make the best of it. There is absolutely no point in despairing and asking yourself how to survive this long time. Try to be optimistic and tell yourself it’s okay as it is. Time passes, make the best of it and continue to enjoy your life. The waiting will be over faster than you think and you can finally live together.