Tinder Hookups – How to get laid on Tinder!

About a year ago I heard from more and more guys how they get laid multiple times a month without much effort. They said with the help of Tinder they hooked up more times in the last months than they did in the last years.

I tried it out but for some reason Tinder didn’t work for me, I got just a few matches, and it was hard to get even one number after a week. So I tough it was bullshit and deleted the app again.

Until I found a few articles (1,2,3) about the rise of STD (sexually transmitted diseases) within the past few years and that apps like Tinder are mainly responsible for this increase. It affected especially young people between the ages of 15 – 24.

That’s sick, right? One more reason you should always wear a condom. But it also showed me that Tinder seems to work really good, for some people. Why didn’t it work for me? This had to change, so I spend a whole year to find out every little trick that could improve my results.

Today I don’t need more than 30 minutes to find a new girl and get laid with her. To remember everything, I wrote down all the things I’ve found out and summarized it. I tough about publishing it, but it was so powerful that I wanted to keep it to myself, because when everyone is doing it, the effect will fade. However, my brother gave me the idea that I could block people from my country to access this site. Call me crazy but I blocked every country except five. This means more action for me, and luckily you seem to have access so more action for you too.

The Big Misconception about Tinder and Hookups

My first step was to find out what’s going on in their mind; I had to understand the female perspective. The easy way would be to ask girls who are using Tinder “How do you decide which guy you are going to hook up with?”. Unfortunately, most of the time girls can’t explain why they do this or that, especially when her feelings are involved. “It just happened” is the answer you’ll get. Men are primary making decisions based on logic but women make emotional decisions based on how she feels in that moment.

Some of you might think “Sean, why are you talking about emotions, I just want to get laid!”. We tend to think that emotions are only necessary if you want to find a girlfriend and connect on a deeper level and so on. But in reality girls are much more logical when they decide with which guy they are having a relationship than with which guy they want to sleep.

Mistake #1 – Thinking like a man

A guy thinks logically and acts actively with a plan in mind: “I want to hook up with some hot girls and I heard tinder would be the easiest way for that. My plan is to get some numbers, then dates and hopefully she’ll let me fuck her on the first date”. That’s it and I’m sure you were thinking similar.

=> Purpose: Getting laid.

Contrary to a girl, let’s call her Olivia, who acts upon her feelings without a clear intention or plan in mind: “I’m feeling bored and a little lonely… hmm it’s been a few months since I broke up with my ex and I’m single quite a while now. Whatever, the right guy will come eventually. But what if he doesn’t I’m getting older and maybe I’m not so attractive anymore. I should try this Tinder; Ashley said it’s funny, I’ll have some nice flirts and maybe Mr. Right comes along.”

=> No purpose, just motivations like Validation, Entertainment, Romance.

Mistake #2 – Creating a Hookup-Persona

Most think that if you want to get laid on Tinder, you just need to take some half nude mirror-selfies after pumping up in the gym, turn her on with some dirty texts and send dick pics. This might work on Grindr but it won’t bring you much success on Tinder.

When we see half nude girls posting mirror selfies and sending dirty lines, we get turned, so why shouldn’t it work the other way round?

There are several reasons for this:

1. Girls are less attracted to visual things than men.
2. It kills the anticipation and shows that you are too easy.
3. They can get those stuff from every guy, it’s not exciting like it is for you.
4. It makes them lose trust because they know that you send this to every girl.

Mistake #3 – Making her feel like a slut

Tinder is known to be a Hookup App, but that doesn’t mean you can treat girls like prostitutes. No girl wants to be a slut, even if she had over 20 sex partners, she wouldn’t want anyone to see her as a slut. It would mean she’s cheap, guys would treat her with less respect, and if they spread the word about her, she would lose her face in the society.

The funny thing is, no matter how many hookups she already had, she will never admit being a slut. She doesn’t even confess is to herself most of the times.

What does this teach us? Avoid everything that makes her feel this way! This includes sending dirty lines or photos upfront, trying to arrange a sex-date and talking about sex too early.

Mistake #4 – Not understanding female sexuality

She will probably end up getting laid because girls love having sex with different partners as much as we do. But it’s a little more complicated, here’s what you need to be aware of:

  1. Getting laid is not her primary intention. The number of girls on Tinder that are actively searching for someone to fuck is low. Most of them just want to meet a few guys, have some fun and see where things are going.
  2. Trust and comfort are required. In order to get seduced, she needs to let loose and feel comfortable with you. Built trust by removing her main fears like being judged, meeting a weird person or getting raped.
  3. The foreplay begins before the date. Male arousal is like a light switch, it’s either on, or off. Female arousal is more like a volume knob. It’s an evolving process, and she needs to be warmed up before it gets dirty.

Mistake #5 – Thinking that girls who dress sexy are easy

A very helpful and time-saving skill that you need on Tinder is being able to filter girls. Let’s assume you’ve got a match with a good looking girl, there are three categories she can be placed in.

  1. Attention Whore: These girls are stealing your time. It’s easy to fall into their trap because they often dress sexy and look easy. However, it’s difficult to get them on a date because they use Tinder mainly to get validation and to be entertained.
  2. Girlfriend Material: There are also a lot of girls on Tinder, who are looking for a serious relationship. There are little clues that help you differentiate between hookup and girlfriend material.
  3. Hookup Material: The famous “Not looking for hookups” in her bio doesn’t mean anything. It’s the result of mistake #3, a protection of her ego because she doesn’t want anyone to think she’s a slut.

Now you know about the most common mistakes and got a view into the female mind. This should help you to get a better understanding what’s going on. Next I’m going to show you how to do it the right way, let’s start with the opening:

How to avoid her Spam-Filter

Olivia starts using Tinder the way I described it in mistake #1 and within a couple minutes she swipes right on a guy who seems to be attractive. It’s a match! Yay.. then the next one, another match. This continues with every guy she likes until she has about ten matches. Most of them have already written “Hey”; “How are you?”; “You’re so beautiful!”..

So many chats that need to be answered. What starts as something fun, quickly becomes stressful. In order to avoid the stress, her mind turns into a spam-filter, just like your email-inbox. Within seconds, she filters out all the crap by simply ignoring it. In her case, these are all of the boring and creepy messages. It’s different for each girl, dependent how many guys she matches with and how willing she is to have a conversation. On average at least 80% of all texts will be ignored to concentrate on the ones who seem to be interesting.

How do you write a message, which captures her interest? There are five ways how you can create a successful Tinder line yourself. In order to help you remember them, I divided them in the following parts:

Personal. Give her the impression that you are interested in her as a person. Writing her name is one step in the right direction. Take a closer look at her bio and each of her photos, is there anything unusual or interesting? Bring up something about it. Try to guess what type of person she is and make statements about her. It doesn’t matter if you’re right, even if you’re completely wrong, it gives you something to continue the conversation with.

Entertaining. Girls just wanna have fun. Be playful and funny, a laugh is always beneficial and makes it much easier to proceed. The hottest girls are not desperately searching for a boyfriend. They use it for entertainment, it’s your job to get them attracted. Pro-Tip: Make up a short story or a joke about her, but be careful it can easily backfire if she is sensitive and you cross her line.

Nifty. I made sure that the pickup lines, which I’m going to give you later on, are not popular yet. You don’t want to use a line that she has already read before. It won’t work, it’s lame and she probably won’t answer, because she will feel like one of many. The easiest way to be unique is to …

Irritating. A direct opener would be “You look really sexy in that dress”. She instantly knows what you mean and that she can have you anytime. If you say something like “You look like trouble”, it makes her think for a moment, why you said that about her and whether it’s a good or bad thing. This way you catched her attention and she is much more likely to reply.

Short. Don’t write more than two sentences in your first message. Many guys are writing her, therefore girls on Tinder are lazy and have a short attention span. If your opening line is too long, she won’t read it. You can increase your effort, after she proves that she is worth it. For an attractive guy she is just another pretty face, so keep your value.

I guess you noticed it, if you don’t: read the first letters of every point. Together they create the word P.E.N.I.S. I’m sure that will make it stick. So next time you write a girl on tinder, just remember the P.E.N.I.S. – Opening Method.

Now you got all the knowledge you need to create your own opening lines. This way you can be absolute sure, that she has never heard them before. However, if you want something that you can use right away, here are some of the best hookup lines. Use them to start a conversation on tinder especially if you want to get laid.

Tinder Hookup Lines – 5 Examples that help you get laid

All the advice in this article is proven to work, primarily because most guys are clueless, so it gives the ones that know about it a great advantage. A few thousand men are reading my free tinder articles every day so to keep the advice powerful, I have to limit the number of people who are using the tips.

That’s why the following part is only for guys, who like us on Facebook or Twitter. Don’t worry this article will not appear just the SoulmateSystem.

These lines will provoke her to reply, even is she didn’t want to because they create that feeling which triggers her. Every guy is different, try them out and you will notice which one works best for you.

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